Keeping It Real Alright let's face it how many times have you picked up a book, read the first few lines or even pages and said, "Here we go again another self-help or somebody else claiming they know about relationships and how to make them work." Possibly everyone over the age of 13 for starter, yes 13, they want to know about relationships just like adults do. Where do we start? Many of you are in relationships that you feel are suffocating you, but you do nothing about it because you may not know what a real satisfying relationship is. Perhaps the answer lies within us our morals, values and beliefs. Some might venture to say that the woman is the catalyst in the foundation of building and maintaining relationships. While others believe it is the man who is the head and cornerstone to it all. Yes there are many self-help tools available to assist you with your life choices, but how long are you going to tell yourselves that you can make it on your own, you do not need anyone telling you how you should and should not live your lives. Wake Up You have not gotten it right yet. How do you explain your continued disrespect and disregard for your own culture? Listen up it is time to shift the blame for your shortcomings to self and take responsibility. It's Personal: Looking In and Looking Out, is a guidepost for those struggling with the questions; how do I look in: love me, so I can look out: love others? You constantly tell yourself I love others but, yet you do not know how to love yourself. Love is not something easily given and received by many. We can embrace our interpersonal self through these seven things. Spirituality; Communications; relationships; trust and respect; love and honor; health and wellness and careers and finances. Hallie R. Harper