How I Understand It

What happens when a therapist writes poetry about her own heartbreak, healing, and inner contradictions? You get a book that's part personal reckoning, part emotional survival guide-and, surprisingly, a little funny.

How I Understand It is a candid, unconventional collection of poems, reflections, and clinical insights from a therapist who isn't afraid to call out codependency, detail the emotional complexities of grief, or tell imposter syndrome to go f*ck itself. Each chapter explores a universal theme-love, divorce, dating, trauma, forgiveness, grief, motivation-blending raw poetry with therapeutic commentary and journaling prompts that invite readers into their own journey of insight and growth. The book culminates with a guide on how to build your own collection of poetry for resilience, making it a practical therapy tool for anybody looking to upgrade their self-expression repertoire.

Whether you're a therapy client, a clinician, or a human navigating the tender terrain of adulthood, this book is here to remind you: your emotions make sense, your perspective is valid, and your story is still being written.

This is not your average poetry book.

This is not your average self-help book.

This is How I Understand It.

"The ideas in the book stayed with me because they're grounded in emotional reality rather than neat self-help slogans. [...] By the end, I felt that How I Understand It is less concerned with being a perfect poetry collection than with becoming a companion for people trying to hear themselves clearly. [...] This is a heartfelt and emotionally generous book. I'd recommend it to readers who like therapy-adjacent writing, reflective poetry, journaling, and books that speak plainly about love, grief, trauma, and the difficult art of becoming kinder to yourself." - Literary Titan