Duped
Autor Abby Ellinen Limba Engleză Hardback – 15 ian 2019
From Abby Ellin's first date with the Commander, she was caught up in a whirlwind. Within six months he'd proposed, and they'd moved in together. But soon, his exotic stories of international espionage began to unravel. Finally, it all became clear: he was lying about who he was.
After leaving him and sharing her story, she was floored to find out that her experience was far from unique. People everywhere, many of them otherwise sharp-witted and self-aware, are being deceived by their loved ones every day.
In Duped, Abby Ellin studies the art and science of lying, talks to people who've had their worlds upended by duplicitous partners, and writes with great openness about her own mistakes. These remarkable stories reveal how often we encounter people whose lives beneath the surface are more improbable than we ever imagined.
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Specificații
ISBN-13: 9781610398008
ISBN-10: 1610398009
Pagini: 272
Dimensiuni: 152 x 234 x 30 mm
Greutate: 0.45 kg
Editura: Hachette Book Group
ISBN-10: 1610398009
Pagini: 272
Dimensiuni: 152 x 234 x 30 mm
Greutate: 0.45 kg
Editura: Hachette Book Group
Notă biografică
Abby Ellin is an award-winning journalist and the author of Teenage Waistland: A Former Fat Kid Weighs In On Living Large, Losing Weight and How Parents Can (and Can't) Help. For five years she wrote the "Preludes" column about young people and money for the Sunday Money and Business section of the New York Times. She is also a regular contributor to the Health, Style, Business and Education sections of the New York Times. Her work has been published in The New York Times Magazine, New York, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times Magazine, Psychology Today, Time, Newsweek, the Village Voice, the Boston Phoenix, Salon, Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Spy (RIP). She holds an MFA in Creative Writing from Emerson College and a Masters in International Public Policy from Johns Hopkins University. As of this writing, her greatest accomplishments are summiting Kilimanjaro (with a broken wrist!) and naming "Karamel Sutra" ice cream for Ben and Jerry's.
Recenzii
Abby Ellin's writingis everything her fiancé pretended to be: witty, vulnerable, brave, smart, andhonest.—Michael Finkel, author of the National Bestseller, The Stranger in the Woods
"Candid and entertaining, Ellin's book offers insight into the socially and psychologically complex nature of deceit as well as the choices she made as a duped woman. Lively, provocative reading."—Kirkus Reviews
"Abby Ellin has been Duped,and in this fascinating book, she reveals how and why ordinary people are oftendeceived by extraordinarily mendacious con artists. Ellin's personal storyleads her to delve deep into research of why people lie and how they lie, andshe discovers how common treachery can be. If you've ever been lied to, or tolda lie, you will want to read this surprising, personal, and funny investigationof deception."—Piper Kerman, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Orange is the New Black
"I couldn't put itdown!"—Gretchen Rubin, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Project and The Four Tendencies
"From the wildlyentertaining opening chapter of Duped, Abby Ellin explores the why andhow of great imposters, many of whom occupied important swaths of her life.Swerving from the deceitful, manipulative, pathological narcissists to theprofessional use of lie detectors, she makes researching dishonesty anentertaining and fascinating read."—Jonna Hiestand Mendez, former CIA chief of disguise
"I loved this book,and not just because of Abby Ellin's masterful storytelling. This is a bookthat can save lives. She paints an exquisite portrait of what life with apredator is like. No child should go to college without first reading thisbook."—Joe Navarro, former FBI agent and bestselling author of Dangerous Personalities
"Thrilling, weird,and funny, Duped reveals the psychology of gaslighting, the prevalenceof gullibility, and the wisdom in paranoia. Abby Ellin is a shrewd chroniclerof cons and a gracious friend to the duped."—Ada Calhoun, author of Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give
"I have recommended this one to friends who've loved someone they turned out not to know... [Ellin] pulls off the tricky balancing act of avoiding either self-justification or self-castigation...Reading 'Duped' gave me occasion to second-guess even gentler deceptions; it may actually have made me a (slightly) better person."—Tim Kreider, New York Times Book Review
"Candid and entertaining, Ellin's book offers insight into the socially and psychologically complex nature of deceit as well as the choices she made as a duped woman. Lively, provocative reading."—Kirkus Reviews
"The author's hybrid of memoir and journalism works well for general readers, keeping things engaging and witty...A timely book for folks who wonder how we ended up in this post-truth world as well as readers of books
like A Beautiful, Terrible Thing (2017) by Jen Waite."
—Booklist"Abby Ellin has been Duped,and in this fascinating book, she reveals how and why ordinary people are oftendeceived by extraordinarily mendacious con artists. Ellin's personal storyleads her to delve deep into research of why people lie and how they lie, andshe discovers how common treachery can be. If you've ever been lied to, or tolda lie, you will want to read this surprising, personal, and funny investigationof deception."—Piper Kerman, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Orange is the New Black
"I couldn't put itdown!"—Gretchen Rubin, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Project and The Four Tendencies
"From the wildlyentertaining opening chapter of Duped, Abby Ellin explores the why andhow of great imposters, many of whom occupied important swaths of her life.Swerving from the deceitful, manipulative, pathological narcissists to theprofessional use of lie detectors, she makes researching dishonesty anentertaining and fascinating read."—Jonna Hiestand Mendez, former CIA chief of disguise
"I loved this book,and not just because of Abby Ellin's masterful storytelling. This is a bookthat can save lives. She paints an exquisite portrait of what life with apredator is like. No child should go to college without first reading thisbook."—Joe Navarro, former FBI agent and bestselling author of Dangerous Personalities
"Thrilling, weird,and funny, Duped reveals the psychology of gaslighting, the prevalenceof gullibility, and the wisdom in paranoia. Abby Ellin is a shrewd chroniclerof cons and a gracious friend to the duped."—Ada Calhoun, author of Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give
"I have recommended this one to friends who've loved someone they turned out not to know... [Ellin] pulls off the tricky balancing act of avoiding either self-justification or self-castigation...Reading 'Duped' gave me occasion to second-guess even gentler deceptions; it may actually have made me a (slightly) better person."—Tim Kreider, New York Times Book Review
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'Abby Ellin's writing is everything her fiancé pretended to be: witty, vulnerable, brave, smart, and honest' Michael Finkel, author of The Stranger in the Woods
In Duped, New York Times journalist Abby Ellin explores the secret lives of compulsive liars, and the tragedy of those who trust them. Perfect for anybody who enjoyed Bad Blood and Dirty John.
While leading a double life sounds like the stomping ground of psychopaths, moles, and covert agents with indeterminate dialects, plenty of people who appear 'normal' keep canyon-sized secrets from those in their immediate orbits. These untold stories lead to enormous surprises, often unpleasant ones. Duped is an investigation of compulsive liars - and how they fool their loved ones - drawing on Abby Ellin's personal experience.
From the day Abby went on her first date with The Commander, she was caught up in a whirlwind. Within five months he'd proposed, and they'd moved in together. But there were red flags: strange stories of international espionage, involving Osama bin Laden and the Pentagon. Soon his stories began to unravel until she discovered, far later than she'd have liked, that he was a complete and utter fraud.
When Ellin wrote about her experience in Psychology Today, the responses were unlike anything she'd experienced as a journalist. Legions of people wrote in with similar stories, of otherwise sharp-witted and self-aware people being taken in by ludicrous scams. Why was it so hard to spot these outlandish stories? Why were so many of the perpetrators male, and so many of the victims female? Was there something universal at play here?
In Duped, New York Times journalist Abby Ellin explores the secret lives of compulsive liars, and the tragedy of those who trust them - who have experienced severe, prolonged betrayal - and the terrible impact on their sense of reality and their ability to trust ever again. Studying the art and science of lying, talking to victims who've had their worlds turned upside down, and writing with great openness about her own mistakes, she lays the phenomenon bare. Ellin offers us a shocking and intimate look not only at the damage that the duplicitous cause, but the painful reaction of a society that is all too quick to blame the believer.
'Abby Ellin's writing is everything her fiancé pretended to be: witty, vulnerable, brave, smart, and honest' Michael Finkel, author of The Stranger in the Woods
In Duped, New York Times journalist Abby Ellin explores the secret lives of compulsive liars, and the tragedy of those who trust them. Perfect for anybody who enjoyed Bad Blood and Dirty John.
While leading a double life sounds like the stomping ground of psychopaths, moles, and covert agents with indeterminate dialects, plenty of people who appear 'normal' keep canyon-sized secrets from those in their immediate orbits. These untold stories lead to enormous surprises, often unpleasant ones. Duped is an investigation of compulsive liars - and how they fool their loved ones - drawing on Abby Ellin's personal experience.
From the day Abby went on her first date with The Commander, she was caught up in a whirlwind. Within five months he'd proposed, and they'd moved in together. But there were red flags: strange stories of international espionage, involving Osama bin Laden and the Pentagon. Soon his stories began to unravel until she discovered, far later than she'd have liked, that he was a complete and utter fraud.
When Ellin wrote about her experience in Psychology Today, the responses were unlike anything she'd experienced as a journalist. Legions of people wrote in with similar stories, of otherwise sharp-witted and self-aware people being taken in by ludicrous scams. Why was it so hard to spot these outlandish stories? Why were so many of the perpetrators male, and so many of the victims female? Was there something universal at play here?
In Duped, New York Times journalist Abby Ellin explores the secret lives of compulsive liars, and the tragedy of those who trust them - who have experienced severe, prolonged betrayal - and the terrible impact on their sense of reality and their ability to trust ever again. Studying the art and science of lying, talking to victims who've had their worlds turned upside down, and writing with great openness about her own mistakes, she lays the phenomenon bare. Ellin offers us a shocking and intimate look not only at the damage that the duplicitous cause, but the painful reaction of a society that is all too quick to blame the believer.