Everybody says time heals all pain, but time itself brought even more pain.This book is my life experience - my story - told through the lens of relationships. It begins with my relationship with my mother and family and expands into my relationships with a long string of men who I dated and sometimes married. None of that is very interesting on the surface. We all have a string of something in our past, and my story may resemble yours or it may not. The reason I've chosen to take you on this journey is because I want to show you what it is like to struggle forward when you don't know the answers, when you wish for a better way, but there is no map to be found. I want to show you that no map is needed; the only way forward is to simply take the steps, maintain self-awareness, and try to correct mistakes when you see them. You'll mess up plenty, just like I did, and there's no crime in that, especially if you take an honest look at it all and say, "now that's something I need to change next time." I'll show you my pain, but I don't hold a grudge.In order to become what you want to be, you must kill who you used to be. It's time to "un-become" all that you don't want to be. You are not your past. Leave what you don't want. Add what you do. We can all "become" whatever we want, and I challenge you to do so.What will you do? FROM THE PREFACE