What are the first things said in a fight between two lovers..."Don't touch me." When you are fighting you want to get away from your spouse. In this book I am trying to tell you to do just the opposite. You can't let your emotions get the better of you. You have to allow your spouse to touch you, even in bad times. You have to restart the discussion in touch. Yes again, you have to start touching each other before you start talking. When you are talking emotions are getting the best of you and you are not thinking correctly. You must not act according to your emotions; you must begin with a touch. You have to go against what you think is right.