From a renowned developmental psychologist and host of the podcast Raising Good Humans comes a revolutionary field guide to the science of temperament-and why understanding it changes everything about how you parent.

Every human arrives with a nervous system calibrated to experience the world in its own way. On one end of the spectrum are orchids; they process deeply, feel intensely, and need particular conditions to flourish. On the other are dandelions, who adapt to almost anything and seem to thrive in many environments. Many of us are tulips, falling somewhere in between. In Western culture, we celebrate dandelions, while we see deeply feeling orchids as fragile, even a problem to fix.

In The Orchid Code, Dr. Aliza Pressman shows how sensitivity has been misunderstood and how we have been mistaking temperamental luck for parenting skill. Drawing on decades of research in developmental psychology and revelatory new temperament science, Pressman explains how the children most easily undone by a hard environment are the ones who gain the most from a good one. When parents learn to tell the difference between the stress that builds resilience, the stress that calls for support, and the stress that calls for protection, they can provide the conditions their children need to thrive.

With scientific rigor and warmth, Pressman provides a field guide to temperament and how to respond to it, making the case that we all fare best when understood for who we are, rather than when we're measured against others who are built differently. Full of insights and strategies, The Orchid Code offers a new lens through which to see ourselves and our loved ones.