What if lasting love isn't about searching endlessly for someone who fits, but making space for the person who doesn't?
From niche hobbies in dating bios to debates about attachment styles and love languages, compatibility has become the currency of modern romance. We scrutinise our interests, traits and habits in the search for a partner who 'completes us'. The perfect match is no longer a fairytale - it's an expectation. But what if our fixation on compatibility is undermining the very intimacy we crave?
In The Compatibility Trap, social psychologist Dr Sanna Balsari dismantles the narratives we have been sold about frictionless love and offers a more expansive approach to connection. Across lifestyle clashes, politics, financial differences, sexual chemistry, and the spectrum of green, beige and red flags in between, Dr Balsari shows how we can stop mistaking friction for failure. Because when we learn to distinguish icks from quirks, and differences from dealbreakers, we can better understand what we want and need from a partner.
Blending cutting-edge scientific research with stories from real-life couples and her own romantic misadventures, Dr Balsari will empower readers to let go of the belief that similarity is essential for compatibility and lasting happiness. Instead, she shows us how embracing difference can deepen our relationships, enrich our lives and help us to fall - and stay - in love.