What is pre middle age? Cole always answers, "Well, when are you gonna die?" Sure, we define it now as 30-50 but it's really about the first pangs of growing into a full-fledged adult. Turns out it stings at times. "You're growing up. And although you want to be somebody's baby...you pay bills and make decisions and buy things like toilet paper and Italian Vogue." With charming transparency and wit, Cole challenges you to mature now instead of in your 80s. Her essays are quick, her life lessons brutally honest and her hunger for living with more grace and civility intoxicating. Whether pre, post or middle age, if one lesson doesn't resonate with you, the next certainly will.