It isn't what happens to us that causes distress; it is how we react to distress that affects us. Beyond Coping -Phoenix rising from the Ashes is an unforgettable memoir of one woman's incredible journey of hope, devastation, and recovery. It is an inspiration for those who are confronted with tragedy in their lives. This story takes the reader to the dream of Paradise, only to have it go up in flames a few months later. The author relies on her own inner strength, the strength of her friend who survived the fire with her, the emotional support of her fianc , and various spiritual books to take her beyond coping and to being completely transformed. Her mother, living in Canada, was her strongest ally, constantly encouraging her to believe in herself.