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Out of Control de Shefali Tsabary

Out of Control

Autor Shefali Tsabary
en Limba Engleză Paperback – 24 dec 2013

Ne-a atras atenția modul în care Out of Control ne invită să regândim momentele de tensiune din viața de zi cu zi, transformând lectura într-un proces de introspecție profundă. Nu este doar o carte pe care o parcurgi pentru a găsi soluții rapide, ci un ghid care ne îndeamnă să lăsăm deoparte ideologiile bazate pe frică în timp ce reflectăm la propriile reacții în liniștea serii. Observăm că Shefali Tsabary provoacă fundamentul pe care mulți dintre noi am fost crescuți: ideea că disciplina este cheia succesului. Suntem de părere că această abordare revoluționară schimbă paradigma de la „cum să controlez copilul” la „cum să mă conectez cu el”. Atmosfera amintește de No-Drama Discipline de Daniel J Siegel, dar în timp ce Siegel se concentrează pe dezvoltarea neurologică, Shefali Tsabary pune accentul pe vindecarea emoțională a părintelui ca premisă pentru un copil echilibrat. Structura cărții este extrem de intuitivă, progresând de la demontarea miturilor controlului (capitolele 1-3) la gestionarea situațiilor de criză, precum rivalitatea între frați sau bullying-ul. În contextul operei sale, acest volum rafinează conceptele din The Conscious Parent, oferind instrumente mult mai aplicate pentru a onora natura autentică a copilului, fără a cădea în extrema educației permisive. Este o invitație la integritate, unde limitele sunt trasate prin înțelegere, nu prin forță.

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Specificații

ISBN-13: 9781897238769
ISBN-10: 1897238762
Pagini: 225
Dimensiuni: 151 x 228 x 22 mm
Greutate: 0.39 kg
Editura: Namaste Publishing Inc.
Locul publicării:Canada

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Recomandăm această carte părinților care simt că metodele tradiționale de pedepsire nu mai funcționează și caută o alternativă bazată pe respect reciproc. Veți câștiga o perspectivă nouă asupra comportamentelor dificile, învățând să descifrați indiciile pe care vi le oferă copilul. Este un instrument esențial pentru a crește copii responsabili și rezilienți, înlocuind conflictele epuizante cu o comunicare sinceră și o conexiune sufletească durabilă.

Despre autor

Shefali Tsabary, doctor în psihologie clinică la Universitatea Columbia din New York, este o voce de referință în domeniul parentingului conștient. Expusă de timpuriu filozofiei mindfulness, ea a reușit să îmbine cu succes rigoarea psihologiei vestice cu înțelepciunea estică. Prin lucrări de succes precum The Awakened Family sau A Radical Awakening, Dr. Shefali a devenit mentorul a milioane de părinți, fiind susținută inclusiv de personalități precum Oprah Winfrey. Practica sa privată și conferințele internaționale se concentrează pe transformarea personală a adultului ca prim pas în creșterea unui copil sănătos.

Cuprins

1 A World that Majors in Control

2 Why Discipline Doesn’t Work

3 Is It Really for Your Child’s “Own Good”?

4 Let Consequences Do Their Job

5 How Rescuing Our Children Teaches Irresponsibility

6 Rudeness, Biting, and Hitting: How to Make Your Child’s Limits Clear

7 Your Children Are Here to Challenge Your Integrity

8 How to Say “Yes” or “No” Effectively

9 You’re Not a Moviemaker

10 Abandon the Idea of Perfection

11 A Strong Child Lives Here

12 It’s Not about You

13 Learn to Read Your Child’s Cues

14 What It Means to Honor Your Child

15 Is What You Are Asking Fair?

16 How to Stay Sane as Your Child Goes Through Phases

17 Tricking Children Is Tricky Business

18 What to Do When Your Child Shuts You Out

19 The Rule about Rules

20 How to Respond to a Teen Who Rebels

21 Avoid Homework Battles

22 Why Do Children Bully?

23 The Challenge of Sibling Rivalry and Children Who Can’t Get Along with Other Children

24 When You Spare the Rod, You Don’t Spoil Your Child

25 In Defense of Parents

26 How to Be an Effective Parent

27 Let’s Connect

28 W Is for Witness

29 I Is for Inquire

30 N Is for Neutrality

31 N Is for Negotiate

32 E Is for Empathize

33 R Is for Resolve

Afterword

Tips for Staying Sane in the Conflict Zone

Recenzii


The patterns of behavior we witness in childhood become the template for our own way of parenting.

It’s because discipline focuses on behavior, not on the feel- ings driving the behavior, that it undercuts the very thing we are trying to accomplish.

We’ve been so schooled to impose “lessons” on our children that it feels counterintuitive to allow the lesson to emerge naturally out of the situation.

The reality is that children learn not because we tell them, but from how we relate to them. It’s the differ- ence between “doing to” ver- sus “doing with.”

To give a child things or deprive them because to do so matches our subconscious agenda—our unresolved emo- tional baggage—rather than aligning with their develop- mental needs, is to court conflict.

Each moment with our child is a reflection of the past and a foundation for the future.

It’s the dynamic that arises from insisting on our paren- tal agenda that creates the need for discipline.

When it comes to accepting ourselves as imperfect, we set the tone for our children. The degree to which they accept their imperfections tends to be the degree to which we accept and honor our own.

To be present for our children means to be aware of our own subconscious agenda so we don’t impose this on our children.

If a parent puts out the kind of vibes that welcome feel- ings, even when the feelings are difficult to tolerate, the child picks up on this, eventually learning how to manage their feelings in a healthy manner.

There are all kinds of ways we can help our children cope with their world. Creativity is what’s needed, not admonish- ment or discipline.

Our children didn’t come into the world to be our puppets. They came here to struggle, fumble, thrive, and enjoy—a journey for which they need our encouragement.

Notă biografică

Shefali Tsabary, Ph.D., received her doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University, New York. Dr. Shefali was exposed to Eastern philosophy at an early age and integrates its teachings with Western psychology. This blend of East and West allow her to reach a global audience and establishes her as one of a kind in the field of mindfulness psychology. She lectures extensively on mindful living and conscious parenting around the world and currently has a private psychotherapy practice in New York City. She has a strong following on social media, posts regularly on Huffington Post, and can be seen on uTube and Ted Talk. Her books include It's a Mom: What You Should Know about the Early Years of Motherhood and The Conscious Parent, which has been heavily endorsed by Oprah Winfrey. She lives in New York City.

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Where did the belief come from that we need to discipline our children if they are to grow up into individuals who are well adjusted and who make something of their lives?
Out of Control reveals how the very discipline we impose to control behavior is in reality a major cause of bad behavior, disrespect for adults, and dysfunction such as bullying, hostility toward family and society, drugs, alcoholism, and teen suicide.
Dr Tsabary asserts that to parent effectively requires us to develop a deep connection with our children, so that we address the feelings that drive a child’s behavior instead of punishing. “When we tackle the reason for the behavior,” says Dr Tsabary, “it automatically changes.”
Far from a laissez-faire, “anything goes” approach, Dr Tsabary advocates for a high level of parental resolve that majors not in control, but in helping a child develop a sense of personal responsibility.
Authentic connection, in which children can be real with their parents, leads to a home in which self-discipline prevails— both for the child and the parent.
The need to “impose our will” on our children evaporates, leading to respect, ownership of one’s life, and a strong character marked by a resilience that flows naturally from within.

Descriere

Every parent wants the golden key to raising well-behaved, academically gifted, successful, happy children. Embedded in the collective psyche is the notion that discipline is the cornerstone to achieving these goals. Out of Control offers a never-before-published perspective on why the entire premise of discipline is flawed. Dr. Shefali Tsabary reveals how discipline is a major cause of generations of dysfunction. The author goes to the heart of the problems parents have with children, challenging society’s dependence on discipline, daring readers to let go of fear-based ideologies and replace them with an approach that draws parent and child together. The key is ongoing meaningful connection between parent and child, free from threats, deprivation, punishment, and timeouts — all forms of manipulation. Parents learn how to enter into deep communion with their children, understanding the reasons for a behavior and how to bring out the best in the child. Far from a laissez-faire, anything goes, approach, this is how a child learns responsibility and takes ownership of their life, equipped with character and resilience that flow naturally from within.