This refreshingly new explanation of the way our minds work in everyday experience combines the latest social neuroscience with the new-paradigm biology of Maturana and Varela. It reveals blindspots that spoil our lives, e.g., the mistaken ideas that meaning is transferable, that decisions come from conscious awareness, or that knowledge is a commodity. The biological significance of love and the value of embracing uncertainty and respecting the unknown point to a very hopeful vision for our future.