If life has taught me anything it is that no one can take something from you without you gaining something in return. Every person who told me to be less of myself, every person who without explanation (or with a terrible one like "I'm just not ready for a relationship" or "you're an awesome girl but") withdrew themselves from my life...every person who didn't like me or didn't want me and every person who did but wasn't the right fit - gave me something. I sifted through those experiences and distilled value from places I thought would only ever hurt. And that, is this book.