Do you ever tell yourself you're fine when you're not? Things could be worse? It's too late to choose differently? Love is enough to fix everything? If yes, it's okay - we all lie to ourselves.
You're fine. Just keep going. Try harder. Do any of these sound familiar? They should. They're the lines we've committed to memory and repeat when we're struggling. They also happen to be the lies women have been taught to keep the peace and carry on - even if it means ignoring the things we know to be true, especially in our most intimate relationships. But this well-intentioned script only keeps us stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing, self-abandonment and disappointment.
You have a choice: You can continue believing the lies that keep everything together, or you can let it fall apart - and take the first essential steps towards an authentic life.
In Let It Fall Apart, couples therapist Maria G. Sosa walks you through twelve lies women have inherited to keep us in line, including:
"Oh, it's nothing" (denial)
"What more could I ask for?" (when the bare-minimum is too much)
"There's a right and wrong choice" (black-and-white thinking)
"This is how relationships are supposed to be" (the trap of the "shoulds")
"This is what a good wife would do" (handed-down expectations)
Blending psychological insights and therapeutic strategies with stories from clients and her own journey through the end of her marriage, Sosa shows how to recognise these lies at work in your own life. You'll learn how to challenge them, make peace with the roads not taken, and trade right-or-wrong thinking for the best decision, so you can rewrite a life that is for you, by you.
Whether you're deciding to stay or leave a relationship, making a midlife pivot, or re-evaluating the choices you've made in life, letting it fall apart might be the counterintuitive move you never thought you needed.
Stop believing the lies that keep you powerless and start seeing your potential for greater happiness and love.