The Tao is said to be one yang and one yin in dynamic balance. The balancing of man and woman is not just their coming together; but also their staying separate. The process is two contradictory things happening at the same time. The difference and sameness of man and woman must be simultaneously maintained. Maintaining the paradox is the mystic's art and the lover's art. This is the contention of The Tao of Relationships.The art is practiced by balancing the physical with the mental, the primal with the cultivated, the wanton with the aesthetic. The Tao of Relationships is about this balancing and achieving the "extra-ordinary ordinary."