However the two of you come across one another, it is almost going to feel like an instant attraction and a mutual recognition of "understanding each other." This typically happens in an office setting or through other work-related activities where there is the opportunity and the setting to subtly exchange non-verbal cues which will lead to this attraction. Is this feeling real? Yes, and it's intense Would you feel this way if he weren't married and appropriate for you? The script unfolds predictably where you become a special friend and the two of you have harmless lunches, coffee, etc? At this point you may be asking your friends what they think because nothing physical has happened. It's really simple. This is stage one of the seduction process....