Shaddock makes sense of intersubjectivity, the functional paradigm shift in highbrow psychotherapy, as both a way of thinking about our psychological lives and a way of doing clinical work. Applying it to relational systems means investigating the experience of each partner/ member from inside his/her perspective and without judgment.The book illustrates how that approach lowers defences and lets in insights, mutual understanding, and renewed hope it demonstrates that treatment built on empathic awareness of contexts and connections can actually also lead to individual transformation.