If you can read a map for traveling from Point A to Point B, then, here is a practical step-by-step manual detailing a method anyone can learn to use for coaching someone to change behaviors, or help them improve their self-esteem. The author has managed to mix the best tools of Esteem Therapy and Reality Therapy with the unique concept of "Behavior Mapping" in a very easy-to-understand way that anyone capable of coaching can immediately use. Detailed examples of how to use this method are given using case studies from working with normal families having children with very common problem behaviors. To underscore the significance of this method, an appendix is included with the results of a 3-year substance abuse treatment program conducted using the general techniques described in the book, while under contract with the Arizona Department of Juvenile Corrections. The success rates for both general recovery and improved self-esteem, etc. for the 108 cases was considered remarkable. While this book was written specifically for the lay person, those working in institutional settings, or child care of any kind can apply much of the knowledge presented here. Professionals certainly may benefit from the information included in the appendix.