The true story of a bisexual man forced to choose between his heterosexual marriage with children and a new gay identity. Sometimes serious, often hilarious, his journey takes him to Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's healing center, to calamitous misadventures in Mexico and California, where he avoids HIV by dumb luck, and after 20 years of trial and error, to the Aloha State, where he finds what he didn't know he was looking for.