CAREGIVING: The SECRETS ARE... is for Caregivers (CG) and their Loved Ones (LO). ALL chronic, serious illnesses have many things in common. The STRESSES that occur while they are trying to cope with their fears, frustrations, anger, and confusion are bewildering even terrifying. They are often unprepared to deal with these problems. Despite his experience and training you will read how Dr.Rose made more mistakes than good decisions. From these, as he did as a successful teacher, he found that he had to challenge what was "common knowledge." He had to find what he could and was willing to change to save his health and sanity. What was necessary to bring Marie back from depression (and side effects from prescribed medications)?There was also the misdiagnosis of Alzheimer's.He takes you through their struggles as he learns what works and what doesn't. Each CG must look into her/his mind and heart and find what works best (it changes) based on each's flexibility, honesty, courage, patience, and the individual responses of the LO as the LO tries to understand and deal with what is happening in her/his mind and body.