The high prevalence of couple conflict and marital breakdown causes considerable suffering to the individuals involved, and where there are offspring, to the children as well. The realisation that couple conflict is not about what happens between the partners but what is happening within each of them as individuals is the principal theme of this book. As long as people view couple conflict as being about the relationship between individuals, rather than within each person, breakdown is the inevitable outcome. This book demonstrates the potential for all breakdowns to become breakthroughs.