Cele mai mari 5 regrete la sfârșitul vieții

The Top Five Regrets of the Dying
Nu, nu este vorba despre mai mult sex sau bungee jumping.

După mulți ani petrecuți făcând meserii care nu îi ofereau satisfacție Bronnie Ware a început să caute o meserie pe care să o facă din suflet. Deși nu avea nici un fel de pregătire formală sau experiență de lucru, s-a trezit implicată în îngrijirea paliativă.

De-a lungul anilor în care a îngrijit persoane pe moarte, viața lui Bronnie s-a transformat. Mai târziu ea a scris un blog despre regretele celor pe care îi îngrijea. Blogul ei Inspiration and Chai a avut peste 3 milioane de cititori în primul an, ceea ce a determinat-o să adune toate observațiile ei în cartea The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

Ware scrie despre claritatea fenomenală a viziunii pe care oamenii o capătă la sfârșitul vieții șî ceea ce am putea să învățăm din această înțelepciune pentru a ne îndrepta atunci când încă mai putem.

Iată și cele 5 cele mai importante regrete pe care oamenii le au la sfârșitul vieții, conform autoarei

1. Mi-aș fi dorit să fiu mai mult eu însămi, în loc să trăiesc viața pe care se așteptau alții să o am

‘This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.’

2. Mi-aș fi dorit să nu fi muncit atât de mult

‘This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.’

3. Mi-aș fi dorit să am curajul să îmi exprim sentimentele

‘Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.’

4. Mi-aș fi să păstrez legătura cu prietenii mei

‘Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.’

5. Mi-aș fi dorit să-mi dau voie să fiu mai fericit

‘This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.’

Care este cel mai mare regret al vostru de până acum?

Sursa: Guardian

Author: bogdan

Software developer, fotograf amator, înnebunit după science-fiction, în special space opera.

3 thoughts on “Cele mai mari 5 regrete la sfârșitul vieții”

  1. In ciuda abordarii oarecum morbide, sfaturile sunt valabile (si bineinteles, imposibil de pus in practica), insa aceste regrete nu le au doar muribunzii, le are toata lumea, in orice moment. Se pare ca mereu va fi ceva de regretat, dar despre asta s-au scris carti mult mai interesante.

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